Growing pains

Wyatt has defined trauma in a way that I love: anything you didn’t have the mental or emotional capacity to deal with. As a child literally anything could be defined as traumatizing. Although some peoples’ trauma may be more severe than your own that’s no reason to diminish your own experience, trauma is trauma regardless. Most people have childhood trauma, now that being said we’re all adults now and we need to process through that trauma in order to heal. You can only use your own trauma as a crutch for so long before people start to realize you have no desire to heal. Working through trauma is painful, growing in general is painful; it’s not supposed to be easy or comfortable but if you ever want something better you have to do something different. Something I heard in a podcast that Wyatt listens to really resonated with me: depression is just a magnification of the past and you’re not going that way. I loved this, if your constantly focusing on what happened, what should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve you aren’t focusing on what still can be. Focus on the past but only enough to positively impact where you’re heading. If you did something you aren’t proud of yesterday learn from that and do better tomorrow. Something shitty happened in your childhood make the connection of how that made you into the amazingly strong and resilient person you are today and use your experience to give someone else strength and hope. Break the cycle and be the light you needed in your darkest time.