Forgiveness

To start here I want to say if someone apologizes to you there’s a massive difference between “it’s okay” and “I forgive you”. I don’t think “it’s okay” is ever an appropriate response an apology and reason being is if something is worth apologizing for then it definitely wasn’t nor will it be “okay”. Telling someone who is apologizing to you that it’s okay essentially justifies the behavior being apologized for. Instead tell the person you forgive them, what they did was not okay but you can move past it and appreciate the apology as acknowledgment of their wrong doing. You don’t even have to forgive them. If someone has apologized and you haven’t yet reached forgiveness, that’s fine you’re not under any obligation to forgive them instead just thank them, acknowledge them and work toward forgiveness. I suggest working toward releasing all resentments, as forgiveness frees you not the other party. Holding resentments is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person suffering from this resentment is you, it may bother the other party slightly for a period of time but they’ll forget about it. You are inducing suffering in yourself alone by holding these resentments. Holding onto this negative thought or feeling is just going to lower your own vibration. Every time you think of that resentment it brings your mind instantly to a negative space and that accomplishes nothing other than ruining your own mood. What good does that do? It doesn’t make you feel better, it doesn’t make them feel worse. Let it go. Move on. It seems easier said than done, but it really is that simple. No longer give that thought control over you, know that you are no longer in that situation, you no longer need to hold onto that which brings you pain. Forgiveness makes you stronger. This applies to yourself as well. Don’t forget to forgive yourself for your own wrong doings. You are human, we all make mistakes. Realize where you went wrong, learn from it, and be better. Love yourself, love your fellow man.