People don’t belong on fucking pedestals

Please for the love of god read that over and over again. There is no better way to disappoint yourself than by placing another human being on a pedestal. We are all human beings, no matter how fucking great someone else might seem they’re human and that means they’re going to make mistakes and they’re going to end up disappointing us at some point. There’s no better way to set both of you up for failure. It may make you be better to strive for something someone else has and it may make that other person do better knowing that there’s eyes on them, but that is temporary. Once that person doesn’t live up to by our expectations, you’re going to be hurt because you placed your happiness in the hands of another person and that person is going to fuck up by not reaching your expectations either because it’s not what they wanted or because they simply fucked up. I’ve seen people in NA with 20 years sober relapse, spiritual leaders get arrested, fines gurus break their routine. Shit happens. We cannot place our expectations and our happiness on outside sources because we have no control over them. The only thing we can control is ourselves. And even then we are only human and we must be gentle on ourselves too. I don’t put much attention on my sober date simply because too many people let that date hold way too much power, it’s just a date. If you fuck up (which I hope you don’t) just get back up don’t throw it all away. That’s like throwing the entire Xbox out because you couldn’t beat the boss on one game and being mad at your sponsor for relapsing is like failing to beat the level so you ask your friend who you know has already beat it once to help and then beating the hell out of them when they can’t do it for you. Sounds ridiculous right? You know what you do when you fail? You make a mark of your new record, get back up and try to set an even better one. Always strive to be better and don’t expect other people to be better for you. Look up to people admire how they’ve gotten to where they are and learn from them. Never put another person above yourself. Even Achilles had a weakness. There’s no such thing as perfect, which is actually kind of a blessing because you can always look forward to something better just as long as you get up and go for it.