Parenting win

So, I’m gonna go ahead and give us a pat on the back for our parenting. I’m reading a parenting book at the moment and one of the main sections of the book is about how yelling at children only causes more problems. I’ve said before when I was younger our household was filled with yelling, belittling, and name calling and because of that I wanted a household that would be nothing like that for my children. Don’t get me wrong we are FAR from perfect parents, our household is loud constantly, we cuss a lot, the wrestling might get too intense from time to time, and we absolutely tease each other. That being said, it’s all done with love. My house is filled with love and very very rarely is the yelling ever in anger. I know this to be true because of my children. Examples of what I mean by this: my sister is from time to time a lunatic and she absolutely yells in anger and one time in the car she was yelling about her boyfriend or something and my son piped up “HEY DONT YELL AT MY MOMMY!” And then he cried very hard for a long time because she had scared him. Her loud anger wasn’t directed at me, she was just loudly telling me about how angry she was and he wasn’t used to experiencing that. Similar example my sister was getting frustrated with my mom and my daughter (who is a huge empath) started to cry. Arie is sooo sensitive to other’s emotions, if I cry she cries, if there’s a sad song on she cries, if someone raises their voice she cries. I can also tell that my kids don’t experience genuine loud aggression often because in the midst of angry situations my son is incredibly uncomfortable and trying to find ways to solve the problem; which I find very sweet. My children are sensitive and caring little beings who outpour love and support whenever possible. That’s how I know we’re doing a pretty good job even when sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. Children operate as small mirrors of our own actions. Not going to lie, sometimes they’re assholes but more often than not they are sweet, sassy, smart, and loving and it makes me so proud. I love sitting and watching them interact and seeing what amazing little people they’re growing into. Sometimes I feel like I’ve failed them, but I know that’s not the case because they are the best little humans. It takes a tribe to raise kids and I’d like to say everyone in mine is doing a killer job. And I’d dare to bet you’re doing a killer job too, even when it doesn’t seem like it. If you don’t believe me take a moment, sit back, and watch how your children interact with the world. You’ll be amazed at the job you’re doing.