Just do it

You know how I’ve been preaching and practicing positive self talk? Well, I’ve been listening to this book (Unfuck Yourself by Gary John Bishop) and in it he’s been talking about how no matter how hard we try we cannot completely eliminate negative self talk. That being said, your thoughts don’t define you, your actions do. This also coincides with what my therapist has always told me to do; opposite action. Meaning no matter how bad you feel, just do what you need to. Most the time we’re our own worst enemy. We beat ourselves into submission with our negative self talk or we sit there waiting for the proper motivation to do whatever it is leaving us sitting in a puddle of self pity doing absolutely nothing but confirming those negative thoughts. Positive self talk is great, you should always work on talking to yourself with love and kindness. BUT even if you’re struggling with that just get up and do it any way. Negative self talk can only hold you back if you let it, but if you get up and take care of business in spite of those negative thoughts then your actually disproving those thoughts with your actions which actually ends up correcting those thoughts. After listening to this book I realized I actually do this A LOT without even thinking about it. Most mornings I don’t just wake up shitting butterflies and rainbow; I get up more like a boggy swamp monster and I have to catch the butterflies and rainbows. What I mean by this for example; my daughter has been sick, she wakes herself up coughing and crying and then her crying wakes up her brother, so for the last week or so I’ve gotten very little sleep. When my alarm goes off at 7 to get my son ready for school my first thought is fuck that I could just shut it off and keep sleeping since both babies are still asleep, but I shut it off and get up. In spite of every negative thought; I get up, I get his clothes, I get him breakfast, I drink my coffee, I work out, and I prove that those negative thoughts don’t define me or how my day is going to go. I get up and get it done. I accept those negative thoughts for what they are, just thoughts and thoughts don’t have to define your actions. Your actions can change your perspective, you can prove yourself wrong. This is your call to action. Don’t wait for the right moment, don’t wait for the proper motivation, don’t wait for your self talk to improve; just fucking do it.