My husband is perfect for me

Here’s exactly what I’ve been talking about y’all. My husband is my perfect match, I seriously couldn’t imagine a better human being to spend my life with. Most things about him are the complete opposite of myself, which means we balance each other out. We have different options and viewpoints A LOT, which means we can learn so much from each other! My husband is passionate and dedicated in everything he does. He doesn’t do anything half assed, he’s always said if it’s worth doing at all do it the best you can. The way my husband goes about doing what’s he’s passionate about is completely different than me. He is blunt, aggressive, and brutally honest and it all comes from this place of deep love and caring. If he didn’t care he wouldn’t do/say shit, so when he says something that comes off as harsh it’s meant lovingly. I love him to pieces and I love how his mind works. He fascinates me and it makes my heart sore when he sends me tid bits of the inner workings of his mind. I’ll show you an example of his beautiful, caring, passionate, aggressive, blunt mind so you too can gain a new perspective aside from mine. “I’m all for affirmations and positive self talk. My self talk is AGGRESSIVE and AFFIRMING, but it HAS to be honest (the best day of my life will always be the day I looked myself in the mirror and said your failing motherfucker). They call it “imposter syndrome” and “cognitive dissonance” cuz everything has to have a fucking label or a diagnosis in today’s world, well let me explain this to you. Your subconscious mind KNOWS your just talking, it KNOWS your a fucking liar when you just read a list of positive affirmations. So, guess what, you FEEL like a fucking liar. An imposter. The very fucking word affirm means to validate. Your affirmations have to VALIDATE your actions. You can’t even trick your own subconscious and you think that your going pull some shit on the Gods with your little affirmation loophole and there just gonna grant you gratitude because you said I’m grateful 27 days in a row? Let’s just say for the sake of the point I’m trying to make that was a possibility, WHY WOULD YOU BE OKAY WITH THAT?! That is the exact thing that is wrong with your position. You would be okay with just appearing to be something with the snap of a finger. Instead of becoming something through the work and discipline that is required to actually acquire it. Gratitude is learned at the fucking bottom. Gratitude isnt saying thank you to the universe for your car and your pet turtle and whatever else you have. Gratitude is more like, thank you for this chance to live today. Im going to do xyz to prove my gratitude today. Thank you for this flesh spaceship I’m piloting I’m going to feed it the cleanest food I can. I’m going to celebrate what it can do during this workout. Then back that shit up WITH ACTION, or bow the fuck out and try again when your ready to be serious. Take shit DEEPER. As deep as you can go, then maybe you will stop slacking.” You see what I mean? His self talk is ENTIRELY different than mine and entirely effective for him and probably tons of other people out there. My self talk is gentle and kind, I won’t lie to myself, but I don’t often use the brutal honesty that he does in his self talk. Sometimes you need self talk like his. Self talk that is so truthful it hurts. Self talk that gives you a kick in the ass. Self talk that makes you get up and do something different. Sometimes when gentle isn’t working we need brutal honesty and aggressive passionate caring to remind us why the fuck we need to change. Sometimes we need a different perspective. For this I love him eternally. I love him for his perspective, for his honesty, for his passion, for his ability to show me new things constantly, for his desire to push me to be my best version of me, for making sure I don’t get in my own way. He is my favorite person on this planet and I am so grateful for him.