Quit being a b*tch

Okay, I haven’t posted in a while, but I’ve seen something lately on social media the irks me to my fucking core. Let me begin this with a question; what’s the most effective way to deter a behavior? You punish it. So, never punish a behavior you wish to see repeated. Now, let’s get into it. I’ve seen an alarming amount of posts, reels, etc from women complaining that their husbands “help” isn’t up to par. Meaning these women jump on social media to complain that the way their husband made the bed, folded the laundry, or whatever isn’t how they would’ve done it and then berated them for doing it the “wrong way” and went on to redo it themselves and then frequently these same women will post about how much they do and how they wish their spouse would help out more. MA’AM I SAW YOUR POST WHERE YOU PUBLICLY SHAMED YOUR MAN FOR TRYING TO HELP. You essentially punished the behavior you wanted because it wasn’t done how you wanted it and believe me I’ve been guilty of this, but I’ve learned that help is help and that if I truly want help then I need to shut up and say thank you when the help is given. Example: I don’t expect my husband to do ANY household chores. I mean that. When it comes to anything around the house that needs to be done that’s my job. Don’t get your panties all bunched up yet because this is a perfectly fair deal. My husband works his ass off five days a week working long hours at a demanding job so I can work very few hours and spend more time with our children; so I take it upon myself to keep up with the house, cooking and children. Occasionally he’ll do something like decide to cook dinner for everyone, which I love. He makes what I would call and unnecessarily large mess while cooking and although I might give him some shit about it I don’t genuinely complain and I happily clean up afterwards because I only had to do the clean up as opposed to cooking and cleaning. Now if I complained every time he cooked about how big of a mess he made do you think he’d want to cook? No. I accept the help gratefully, because it’s nice of him to do that. I think more people, women in particular, need to learn this. Either you want help or you don’t. If you actually want the help shut the fuck up, say thank you and accept it even if it’s not how you would’ve done it. If you can’t accept the help that’s being offered then shut the fuck up anyway because you must not need help as bad as you say. Rant over 🙂