That’s stupidly not forgiveness

My husband and I have been becoming more active members of our church. I went through RCIA, got confirmed, had our 4 youngest baptized, and we are currently taking marriage classes to have our marriage blessed within the church. We got married a year ago on May 26th with a beautiful, small ceremony on the beach in Florida, but we did this ceremony before we started increasing our involvement with the church, so we think it’s important to now have our union blessed. We were speaking with our priest and he said we would essentially have another short wedding ceremony in the church and we could invite whoever we wanted amongst other things. We could then invite people that didn’t get to come to Florida…and my first thought was “maybe I could invite my dad” I thought maybe an invite to this religious ceremony could be an olive branch to let him know that I forgive him for not coming to my wedding reception. I thought maybe if I did invite him that he’d come….but I realize after some thought that’s not forgiveness…that’s stupid. It’s stupid because I’m not the one that damaged our relationship. I’m not the one that lied, ignored phone calls and text messages, and skipped out on the most important events in my life. He couldn’t be bothered to come to my wedding reception, or send a congratulation text. He couldn’t be bothered to come to any of my children’s birthdays or even wish them a happy birthday, he couldn’t be bothered to contact me on my birthday or any holidays. It’s not up to me to extend an olive branch because I’ve extended enough. Inviting him would only inevitably break my own heart again. All I ever wanted was a first dance with my dad, but I guess that’s stupid.