Life happens for you not to you

Read the title again and really try to understand what I mean by that. Life happens for you not to you and once you start to realize that you’re going to start seeing amazing changes happen in your life. Nothing in life just happens to you. I used to be one of those people who thought “oh, why do these shitty things keep happening to me? Poor poor me!” Well, because that’s the wrong fucking attitude, that’s why. Nothing in life just happens to you by chance, your life is entirely of your own creation. Good and bad things are going to happen, but it’s what you learn from them that defines how your life is going. Instead of thinking “poor me” try “what can I learn from this?” Or “what is the universe trying to tell me?”. If your life seems like a living hell I guarantee it’s of your own design. Now that’s probably going to make some people upset and that’s fine just know when you’re ready to change you’ll understand that. I spent most my life in a drug induced stupor wondering why in the fuck my life sucked. Well my life sucked because I was making it suck, plain and simple. I was vibrating at the lowest frequency and I attracted exactly what I was putting out there. I used drugs to hide from my past and numb my present because I wasn’t ready to deal with any of it. Numbing my present caused me to make choices that kept me where I was at instead of learning how to move forward. I’m ready to move forward and I can look at my life now and see where I’ve fucked up just like reading a history book. History can’t repeat itself if I see where the mistakes were made and learn how to avoid them. When a challenging situation arises try to take a breath and a step back and look at it from an outside perspective, because your first reaction is going to be raw guttural emotion. Instead of decreasing your vibration to the level of what is happening try to think about why exactly is this happening? Why is this person insulting my character loudly and belligerently? How I react will define my character. This tantrum defines their character not mine. Maybe this person is hurting and stuck in a rut of self pity and is lashing out because instead of trying to relieve their own pain they are trying to sink others into pain with them. Decide that’s not how I want to be and send them love and healing because that’s no way to live. Have love for yourself and your fellow man. Have patience and kindness where you are met with anger and hate. Treat others with the respect and love that they are so desperately missing and hope that one day they find themselves in-spite of their circumstances and that they one day get to experience all the love and happiness they deserve. Don’t be angered instead know where you come from, where you’ve been, and see that in them. Know that’s not how you want to be, offer your fellow man a hand up and pray for healing because no one truly deserves to live such a sad existence.