Be the light

There’s four things I’ve learned about negativity in my life thus far; 1. Everyone has negative thoughts and feelings 2. Those thoughts and feelings are temporary so long as you don’t feed into them 3. When left to fester negativity spreads like a virus 4. Negativity never solves anything. So, let’s discuss. Everyone on the planet has negative thoughts and feelings every now and again or maybe even more often than others, but you are wholly in control of yourself, your thoughts, and your actions. Just because you have a negative thought or feeling doesn’t mean you have to act on it or dwell on it. Absolutely allow yourself to feel the feeling and acknowledge the thought and release it. Dwelling in those negative feelings is never helpful and it’s only going to cause you to get stuck in this terrible tailspin of negativity. If it’s harder to release those thoughts and feelings instead get up and go do something that proves those thoughts false. If I think “damn it, I’m so tired and grumpy! I haven’t slept in days and I don’t even want to go to work” Welp slap your big girl pants on because we’re combating negativity with opposite action. That was my exact thought this morning. Guess who got up at 530 and got showered, drank some coffee, got the kids clothes picked out, and breakfast for the little ready before her shift? This girl! Why? Because I am not my negative thoughts. I am stronger than them, I am better than them, and I will not be defeated by my self ever again. When you do the exact opposite of what your negativity wants you to do it actually helps boost your confidence and self esteem because you physically proved yourself wrong. BOOM! Still tired, but in a pretty good mood and ready to make today my biatch! Now, had I fed into that negativity and called into work to try and sleep many not so great things would likely happen. For one I’d let that negativity win and I’d start to feel worse about myself. More than likely all the kids would wake up immediately and I wouldn’t get to sleep any way. I’d leave my work short handed which would also make me feel bad. I’d set a poor example for my children. I’d miss out on extra hours on my check. And I’d probably be a bitch all day because I’d be stewing in that negativity that I let take control. Which leads into the next thing. Negativity, when left to fester, is a virus. If I let the negativity win my terrible energy would rub off on those around me. I’d probably spend most my day being a bitch having a pity party and all the while putting my husband in a worse and worse mood. No one wants to hang around with negative people because it hurts their own vibration. Then my negative mood transfers to my husbands mood and next thing you know we’re rubbing off on the kids and then the whole house is angry and walking on eggshells for no reason other than I’m upset with myself and I’m going to put the whole house on edge for my own problems I chose to deal with improperly. And say I’m still stuck in the negativity and I encounter someone who is throwing their negativity around like confetti also I’m probably going to want to join in the flinging of negativity, but you know what? That’s only going to cause bigger problems. Trying to solve negativity with more negativity is like shutting off all the lights in your house to try and make the one light that burnt out work again. It’s not going to work and then everything is going to be dark for no reason. Snuffing out the light of others never makes your own brighter it just deepens the darkness around everyone. Be the light. Don’t succumb to negativity.